I was chatting with an old friend, and we got onto the topic of our past. You know, throwing baseballs at hornets' nests, running from said hornets, wondering why we were always covered in hornet strings, the works. He chuckled and then said "Yeah, back when you were a guy."
Whoa. Hold the phone. Back when what?
A lot of transgender individuals go through this, and they feel a strange rubber-bandy stress build up on the spot. It's not something you want to hear, but why? It's because, as you know deep inside, you were never a guy or girl in the past. You were simply born into misfortune and hiding your true self out of confusion, fear, embarrassment, etc. It's not a good thing to be brought up, and it's annoying to me that such a simple comment can bring back the pain of the past. Not in full force, but it's a nice ol' tablespoon of hurt.
So let this stand as a PSA to those who are not transgender. Do NOT say that.
P.S. I still love my friend very much.
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